This discussion got quite heated. It drove me batty hearing the comments made in there from your average person. People so readily accept behaviours because it was acceptable to their parent or community. I talk a lot about macro and micro as mentioned previously. Most people would agree that we are here to learn and to grow as individuals, so why do people find the jump to growing as a race so damn difficult to digest?
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As far as im concerned the fact that so many people in here have been smacked and think its ok shows us that average, well behaved kids are being spanked for no other reason than its a quick fix for the parent. The mantra of society is "i haven’t got time for this". Its is a bad reflection on they way we think as a people, we often look for the easy route and this just happens to be another example. I keep bringing up the concept of thinking beyond the square, because big things are just a collection of small things. For example a world war starts with one shot, one ill advised word. Therefore the fact that we spank our children so readily reflects in part who we are as a people. My hope is that this cycle will eventually end and the need for any kind of violence is the very last resort when no other options are available. A child learns that causing pain can be an effective means to get what you want but there is a line, the child grows up and discovers the line has started to fade- does that sound eerily like the world you are now living in?
Wednesday, March 22
Hitting your voodoo child - Forum post
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This is a continuation of the hitting issue. Got me riled.
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Oh and by the way that animals do it in nature argument is bullshit. We are capable of more complex relationships than animals, we have the choice, they dont.
I use positive reinforcement on my dogs and never have the need to smack, i took them to training school and discovered that it wasnt the dogs who got trained, it was actually us. Perhaps people should consider that before brandishing the hand for a good spanking to make themselves feel better and not have to think too much more about it. Research is beginning to see that smacking a child is not an effective form of discipline, I say "WELL DUH"
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Well this shocks me and scares me a little, to think that people believe any form of violence no matter how small is ok. I was smacked yes, i turned out ok as well. BIG DEAL, so have kids brought up who were beaten or other horrible things, humans are wired to survive! But to think that its such an easy decision to make for a person to smack their child is just awful. Im reminded of a great cartoon i saw years ago of a parent smacking a child and the caption says - "That will teach you not to hit people smaller than you".
Smacking a child is a quick fix approach, easier on the parents and the kids learn only one thing - make a mistake and you will pay with pain. It is lazy behaviour and should be the absolute last thing you should do, we are living in a violent culture and all this does is continue the vicious circle. I truly think this goes beyond just one issue. I will never smack my child, because if the child is misbehaving, it is MY responsibility and MY fault if i haven’t made myself clear, NOT the child’s. If I see a kid screaming in a shopping center I don’t want to hit the child, i want to send the parents to parent training.
Wow im a little freaked about this one, i cant believe so many people think that way. Maybe i should stop now.
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