Bonk before the big day? You bet your sweet bippy. Past post.

Have a religiously inclined kid on the forum who was adamant that sex before marriage was just plain wrong in every way. I had some comments on that.

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"Sex complicates things. It can be addicting and become the reason two people are together, which is not a sustainable reason"Dave, a long term relationship aint the reason people always have sex. Being together with someone purely for sex isnt that bad as long as they both agree to it. You call it complication however getting close to someone emotionally can be more complicated. Sex b4 marriage can allow you to get over that fascination with physical sex and allow the relationship to focus on more important things. Getting to know person b4 sex is fine but what about if you are sexually incompatible and you marry the person, my parents are prime example, it goes both ways mate.Studies as small as 92 couples is no study, and often they focus on a single age group and socio economic/cultural circumstance. How old were these 35% people who are happier? If they are under 60 then forget it, you cant gauge happiness and 80% of people will tell people they are happy when they are not as they wont admit it to themselves, silly study! There is no such thing as normal happiness."Women in the ’90s were more likely than women in the ’80s to cohabit rather than marry in response to pregnancy. Together, these trends suggest that cohabitation is becoming more a substitute for marriage, rather than a form of engagement that culminates in marriage." Crap, more woman work in professional careers in 90's than 80's, marriage is not near as important as career. We are talking incredibly different times and a comparison is just silly without taking that into account. Divorce has nothing to do with sex, they are focussing on the wrong thing, women work more, their needs and desires have changed. Men have changed and women are finding less need for one to be around. Women are changing, men still are not, that’s why marriages often fail, again this focus on sex is low low down in reasons, the only people who think this much about sex as such a big thing are virgins!THIS IS IMPORTANT ------Remember this - the people who marry before their 30's today are more likely to be living by their parents generation of values, therefore comparing that to a more modern thinking is almost impossible, most of my friends couldn’t care less about marriage, couldn’t care less about kids. Where in all this is that mentioned and where is it mentioned that nobody is having children? That’s why we are having sex with various partners, cause if we wait for marriage or procreation then most people will be virgins till their 40's.